• Erik Frederickson - Life Coach and Recovery Coach

Emotional Intelligence and Addiction

This world is constantly grinding away at eroding our internal health, it seems that for many people emotional IQ has been tossed to the wayside.

Hoisting the flag of accusation, offense, and angry has become a virtue in our culture. Too many people within our culture lack the understanding that an outward display of judgment, offense, and anger is a full revealing of the void of internal health and emotional IQ.

This portrayal of being offended at everything is a recipe for disaster. Being frequently and easily offended is a revealing of the person carrying the offense having a massive void of intelligence surrounding how to govern their own thoughts and emotions.

Proverbs 4:23 So above all, guard the affections of your heart, for they affect all that you are. Pay attention to the welfare of your innermost being, for from there flows the wellspring of life. 24 Avoid dishonest speech and pretentious words. Be free from using perverse words no matter what! (TPT)

When a culture models low emotional intelligence as the norm they pave a path for the following generations to live out judgment, anger, and accusation on greater and greater levels.

When kids grow up with a deep ridden internal unhealthiness it creates stress, confusion of identity, stress leads to unhealthy habits that promote physical health issues, and these poisonous bread crumbs more often than not lead to a doctors prescription of a narcotic more potent than street drugs.

The prescription (legal drugs) bring a strange new counterfeit comfort. This new feeling is a brief internal peace and comfort. One they may have never felt or encountered because living offended with an accusatory posture is not conducive to a peaceful and comforting internal reality.

This drug-induced and fleeting internal peace, that came without doing the work to host a high emotional IQ, is now a prescribed dosage away and the death grip of addiction slowly sinks its teeth in. The fact that so many people want their “pills” for relief proves that we as humans were created to live in peace, a true living and breathing internal reality.

But as a society, we have portrayed a way of living that promotes internal chaos, gossip, and bitterness. So when the foreign reality of euphoria, joy, and peace present themselves within us we say, “wow, I need more of that,” and dependence to a drug that brings a false peace and joy opens a door to the death march of addiction.

I believe that our skyrocketing overdose statistics, addiction numbers, suicide rates, divorces, and so on would plummet substantially if teaching emotional IQ (instead of political agendas) was mandatory in public school systems.