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From Jessica Sanders, Recovery Advocate and Blogger


Today I am sitting at my Aunt and Uncle's house all alone, just to rest and relax, while they are gone for the day. Maybe that doesn't seem like such a big deal, but to me it's huge.


Just six years ago I was strung out on meth wreaking havoc and destroying my life. Out of the kindness of their heart this same aunt and uncle let me move into this very house. I then proceeded to use drugs, disrespect, disregard, and lie to them. They tried to confront the issues and set boundaries but I was blinded by the drive of addiction and soon they had no other choice but to ask me to leave.


No one could blame them but of course I was very angry. They wanted to see me succeed in life and break free from all my destructive habits. I was always invited into their house during holidays and welcome to family functions but I was never left alone their. They loved me very much and they quickly forgave me. However, I refused to accept that love or advice.


My heart was hard and I wasn't allowing anyone to speak into my life.

Check out this 2 min clip where Jessica shares about the moment when God set her free from her 15 yrs of addiction.


You can listen to her full story HERE on the Recovering Reality Podcast.


Once I got clean my family was my biggest support. God softened my hard heart and I became teachable. Those important family relationships have been reconciled and deep connections have been made. It took time to rebuild trust but with honesty and integrity those bonds were made.


I accepted responsibility for myself, and I walked out my recovery. I made amends to those I had wronged. I gave them space and I let my life be the testimony of change. I never tried to convince anyone of anything. I also never tried to force relationship on anyone who wasn't ready. God loves to restore broken people and broken relationships. So I did my part and let God do

His.


Each relationship that had been destroyed with my parents, siblings, aunts, uncles and so many others were being repaired and restored. Some quickly, some slowly, but each one was deeper and more meaningful than ever before.


Even though it wasn't easy to walk out the restoration process in each relationship the results were priceless. It's a very humbling experience to have to accept responsibility for your wrongs and let others express their feelings. It is a process that be rushed or done overnight. So don't give up hope even if you feel like things will never change.


Pray to God and ask Him to soften the hearts of the people who you hurt. Ask Him to show you where you went wrong in those relationships and ask God to forgive you. Then give it time to work out.


Nothing worthwhile comes easy but when you partner with God it's all possible.


How to Repair Relationships after Addiction - Narconon.com


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  • Erik Frederickson - Life Coach and Recovery Coach

Updated: Sep 3, 2020

Let’s talk about this.


I'll start with some of my own experience. Alcoholics Anonymous was extremely instrumental in my recovery journey, which started over 11 yrs ago. The structure, the community, the convenience, and the step by step guide to connecting with God and cleaning up my life was very much needed for me at that time.


I spent the first year and a half to two years of my recovery frequenting meetings, leading meetings, doing to the steps, taking others through the steps, speaking at meetings, and hanging out with fellow AA'ers. I needed the structure and I needed to be around people that understood the chaos of recovery from addiction.


For me, from the beginning of my recovery it's been about God, period. I knew a relationship with Jesus and a life based upon Him and His teachings had to become my life, that has not changed over the years. I have definitely changed, but my God first lifestyle has not.


I can say that I'm grateful for AA, and I recommend it to people for starting their recovery journey.

A 6 min video with some of my thoughts on "God and AA"



But let's take a broader look at this.


I now spend all my time working in the field of addiction and recovery with my own Recovery Coaching business. Everyday I'm talking to someone that can't escape the chains of addiction, connecting with treatment center representatives, loved ones of people caught in addiction, community organizations, and so on. It's safe to say that many people see AA from many different vantage points.


Let's start here.


Did you know that..." Bill W. stated in 1940 that of those entering AA, 50 percent never drank again. 25 percent remained sober throughout their lives after experiencing some early difficulties and the remaining 25 percent could not be accounted for. Bill stated that 75 percent of AA members back then got well -- they recovered. Group records indicate that in Cleveland, Ohio there was a 93 percent success rate for recovery in the early 1940's." -History of Early AA


The early days of AA had amazing success rates, especially by today's standards. Sadly these days they say, "Addiction specialists cite success rates...between 8% and 12%." -americanaddictioncenters.com


But is it all AA's fault?


My opinion? Yes, and no.


I believe one of the biggest draws of AA is it's convenience, and it's FREE. You can go to an AA meeting in just about every city in America, it's also all across the globe, and the cost of membership? FREE!


Those two biggest draws, are also leading factors for people coming through the doors of AA rooms with little desire to truly get sober. Often people come to AA that aren't even alcoholics, they need help with some aspect of their life but their not really alcoholics.


You get a decent amount of people that are court ordered to the meetings as well, and most of the time the people that are court ordered certainly need to change but they far from being ready to change.


I also believe that AA has deviated from the very things that made it so successful. AA was founded on Godly principles. Did you know that the principles from AA are from the Bible, and it was a pastor that guided them into the steps?


Bill W. once wrote in the A.A. Grapevine that “Dr. Sam Shoemaker was one of A.A.’s indispensables. Had it not been for his ministry to us in our early time, our Fellowship would not be in existence today.”


Bill W. made it clear that Sam Shoemaker “passed on the spiritual keys by which we were liberated.” The first three Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, the starting point for sobriety in the A.A. program, were inspired in part by Shoemaker. Bill further explained that “the early A.A. got its ideas of self-examination, acknowledgement of character defects, restitution for harm done, and working with others straight from the Oxford Groups and directly from Sam Shoemaker, their former leader in America, and from nowhere else.” -AA.org


I believe that a lot of the early success rate was do to the fact that AA made it their goal to talk about God, and through the steps connect people to God. These days, in my opinion, far too many people in the rooms of AA cave to political correctness and talk about God less and less. Hence the horribly low success rates.


I still know many people, whose lives were far beyond repair, that have reaped the benefits of actually committing to the AA way of life. I have also seen many people live out beautiful and healthy recovery without ever stepping foot into an AA room. I also know more than a few people that started their recovery journey in AA and have since deviated from AA and are still living great recovery.


If you want some help in getting started in your recovery journey, and you're actually serious about getting clean and sober, AA can and will help. You will find good people, and some "characters", that will help you.


The principles that make AA work, well, they work. It's just that many people in AA don't stick to the principles, but do stick around in AA.


I haven't been to an AA meeting in about a decade. I do have a respect and appreciation for AA, but myself and many others would also say that, "AA is not the only way to recovery." I know people that have hit more rock bottoms than they could count and they got sober through a church, through working with a therapist or coach, through treatment, and other ways.


The truth is that if you are really ready and wanting to get clean and sober, you will, and AA can help you, and so can multiple other recovery avenues. But the people that I see living the healthiest and most powerful lives of recovery are the people that make God the biggest priority in their life.


A conversation between 3 people that should be dead, but are now in relationship with God and healthy recovery.

Erik Frederickson is Life and Recovery Coach. He has clients all over the world and he is considered an expert at helping people transform their life in powerful ways.

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  • Erik Frederickson - Life Coach and Recovery Coach

Updated: Sep 3, 2020

"It's a pandemic within a pandemic." said former addict and ex-con Tim Ryan in a FoxNews interview.


"As millions upon millions are out of work across the country, Ryan said the risk of Americans turning to alcoholism or drug use to cope with the daily stress of life in isolation has never been higher." -FoxNews


Ted Ryan, 2016



As someone in recovery and working in the field of addiction and recovery myself, I can say from first hand experience that in my 11 yrs of recovery I've never seen anything like this. More friends and acquaintances have relapsed and overdosed in the last four or five months than any four or five month span I remember in all my days of addiction and recovery. It's shocking.


Check out my radio interview covering this topic


LIVE ON AIR AT WJER - 16mins



"The potency of being sober and then going again and using the stuff that is out here in the street, it can bring death...It will bring death. We've seen it," stated Marty Calderon of God Touch Milwaukee during an WTMJ-Milwaukee interview.


States across the nation are reporting massive spikes in relapses and overdoses.


Arkansas - "Fort Smith paramedics from May to July have on average responded to 50 overdose calls per week — a 40%-60% response increase to these kinds of calls from the first four months of the year." swtimes.com


Pennsylvania - "Overdose deaths skyrocket in Pennsylvania during COVID-19 pandemic" local21news.com


Illinois, Chicago - "Opioid overdoses skyrocket in the face of COVID-19 pandemic; stronger drugs, scarce treatment blamed." medicalxpress.com


"Deaths from suicides and drug overdoses currently exceed deaths due to the COVID-19 virus, Centers for Disease Control & Prevention (CDC) director Dr. Robert Redfield warned during a medical presentation earlier this month." lifesitenews.com


This list could go on and on.


With endless incidents of botched and fabricated cases of COVID it poses the question over and over again, why has America handled this the way it has, and why does it continue?


I encourage you to speak up! Get loud!


People's lives are at stake, and NOT just from the virus that "kills about 0.26 percent of the people it infects." CDC, NYPOST.COM.


More people are dying from overdoses and suicides than from COVID. At the very least make sure you're checking in on your loved ones and getting them any help that is possible during this time.


The recovery community needs help now more than ever.


Erik Frederickson is Life and Recovery Coach. He has clients all over the world and he is considered an expert at helping people transform their life in powerful ways.

Contact Erik HERE - info@recoveringreality.com


Sign up for 7 days of FREE online Recovery Coaching HERE


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